I posted this page a long time ago, and in looking it up, found it as a dead link. Well, the link is fixed, and the 4-year old description is still right on.
In a related story, Lutz Roeder said my children's names (Natalie & Cora) are strange. I don't know what to think about that. :)
This was taken from Elaine Gibson's "How Kids Grow: Defining Normal Behavior Birth Through Age Twelve"
What to expect: The "Out of Bounds" 4 is exuberant and rebellious.
- the child talks well and thinks the child is a big shot.
- Fours tell outrageous lies and are very stubborn.
- They talk all the time and mix reality and fantasy.
- They ask "why" in order to argue.
- They are bossy and defiant, "I won't".
- They refuse to nap but will fall asleep at 5:30 and wake up ready to stay up all night.
- They think up all sorts of ways to avoid getting in bed.
- At night, they are likely to have bad dreams.
- They can dress and undress themselves with little assistance.
- They eat too fast or not at all.
- They can now wash hands and face and brush teeth without assistance if they have been trained.
- They run ahead of adults and refuse to hold hands.
- Fours play feelies with other children and need honest information about bodies and babies.
- A fussy four needs exercise and then a rest.
- When excited, the child will need to urinate.
- When stressed, the child's stomach will hurt.
Needs: Social opportunities.
- Small play groups.
- Props for pretend play.
- Art materials for creative expression.
- Parents with a sense of humor.
Discipline: Don't argue with a four.
- Talk less than the child does.
- Don't ask a four if the child did something. You will teach the child to lie.
- Teach the child the consequences for misbehavior; then when the child misbehaves, apply the consequences.
- Be very consistent with a four and the child will learn to control the child's own behavior.
- Four seems big but the child is still a baby when stressed or tired.
- Give the child lots of hugs and kisses even if you have to catch the child to do it.
| posted on Friday, February 25, 2005 2:45 PM